Crystal said she didn’t process her assaults from years ago until the movement on Twitter in June 2020. She said both instances involved sexual coercion, a fact that she did not understand and repressed until she confronted her reported experiences last summer.
“I didn’t feel like my story mattered or it wasn’t as severe as what anybody else went through or it didn’t really click that it was assault for me,” Crystal said. “It was coercion, so that’s not really seen as rape a lot of times.”
Sexual coercion is defined as “unwanted sexual activity that happens when you are pressured, tricked, threatened or forced in a nonphysical way,” according to the Office on Women’s Health in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
11 reports of coercion among tweets
When it comes to sex, lines can become blurred where actions can move from consensual to nonconsensual, Erin said.
“It becomes very hard to decide, ‘Oh, was it my fault, or did I do something to make this happen to me?’ That was a lot of the cases I saw [on Twitter]. It takes a lot of time for people to realize what happened to them,” Erin said.
The conversation on Twitter looked at the multiple forms and nuances of sexual assault and misconduct, specifically the issue of defining and understanding consent. However, while many posts were met with support, there were some that were met with criticism and overall suspicion when it came to the anonymous account.
“I think a lot of people were so suspicious of the page and so suspicious that there are a lot of comments like, ‘Oh, all of a sudden everybody’s coming forward?’ ‘All of a sudden everybody got assaulted?’” Veronica said.
Linnea Ionno is the director of adult services at The Cottage, which is a sexual assault and children’s advocacy center in Athens. She said people often have a particular view of a perpetrator and don’t realize they can have families, friends or partners who could commit sexual assault.
“I think it always comes as a shock to folks when they learn that somebody has been a perpetrator and usually, their first reaction might be to deny it or not believe it,” Ionno said.
Veronica noted that some of the most outspoken critics of the movement were men, who challenged the definitions of both consent and sexual coercion. These comments from individuals in the UGA Twitter community revealed that former and current UGA students may not know what consent is.
“It was mostly men who were saying that [and] there’s a lot of guilt in that because I think you understand that the definition of rape, the definition of assault, is perhaps broader than you thought it was, and maybe you realized you’re a rapist, too,’” Veronica said.
At least 11 reports of sexual assault and misconduct posted by individuals in the UGA Twitter community or the anonymous account said their perpetrators used physical force, according to The Red & Black’s records of the tweets.
At least 11 reports involved coercion. Some of the reports involving force or coercion also mentioned alcohol or drugs.
“We have seen cases over the years in which coercion or begging have played a role. Coercion is of particular importance because it can be an element of force that is required in Georgia’s rape statute," said Shannon Parker, a sergeant in the special victims unit which oversees cases of sexual assault for the Athens-Clarke County Police Department.
Kayla Trawick, a UGA class of 2021 alumna, said it isn’t enough for a sexual partner to simply say the word “yes.” She said there must be a point of “enthusiastic consent,” where both partners clearly state they want to engage in sexual activity.
“If you have to get someone to say ‘yes,’ it’s not a yes,” Veronica said.
According to a 2015 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report, one in six women and one in 10 men experience sexual coercion in their life. However, as Crystal said, some survivors do not realize that these experiences are rape and assault as they, too, may not understand the broad scope of consent.
The 11 reports involving coercion detailed instances where individuals were repeatedly pressured into sexual activity. Some also said they were manipulated by the alleged perpetrator and/or repeatedly contacted by alleged perpetrators for sex despite saying no multiple times.
Being able to understand and define consent is part of a larger conversation surrounding sex education.
Giordana Diaz, an Athens therapist, said she’s worked with multiple counselors in the county and state on how to enhance the current sex education curriculum. Diaz said the main issue is the lack of detail and safe space for students.
“Instructors and the curriculum can’t be afraid to ask the deep and scary questions. They need to talk about alcohol, examples of coercion and how to treat your partner,” Diaz said. “We’re not teaching them enough.”
About 86% of UGA’s 2019 undergraduate class were Georgia residents, meaning they have likely been subject to the sex education courses in Georgia schools.
According to a December 2017 analysis from the CDC, Georgia law does not address education on contraception; parents have the authority to opt-out students from sex education curriculum; and abstinence is a required topic in sex education.
State law does not specify whether sex education must be medically accurate, taught by trained instructors or follow national standards and recommendations.
In most cases, Diaz said teens are taught to either fear or know very little about sex, sexual assault or consent. By the time they are college students, both men and women know very little about when and how to ask for consent, leading to larger issues.
As incoming freshmen, UGA students are required to complete the Sexual Assault Prevention for Undergraduates training online, formerly known as Haven, which teaches students about rape and sexual assault. But that may not be enough.
“They make us do that little module when we first come into college about sexual assault and drinking,” Erin said. “That doesn’t do anything because people just skip through it and they just get it done just to get it done.”
While simple modules are efficient and easy, Diaz said universities should be responsible for providing year-round consistent education.
Erin said she’d like to see the university provide survivors with a platform in events, on campus and social media. It’s not enough for the university to quote from books or experts — survivors should be speaking about their experiences and the importance of consent, Erin said.
“Because even if you don’t want to be listening to [these] things, if these things are kind of forced into your face, there’s no way for you to avoid it completely, and it plants that little seed,” Erin said. “It might be able to deter someone from doing that [assault] in the future.”
Like Veronica, Erin said that sometimes people do not genuinely realize what is or is not consensual. If a student was never taught the range of consensual and non-consensual instances, then they wouldn’t be able to apply that to their own experiences with sex, she said.
Diaz said conversations around consent and explicit examples of what not to do remain taboo topics in many institutions and settings. This creates a dangerous situation for college students who are ignorant to consensual and non-consensual acts.
“Students need to learn and trust the university when it comes to sex education and sexual assault,” Diaz said.
However, both Crystal and Erin said they did not have faith in UGA to be able to change things for the better. They said the university has not shown enough effort or action to protect and give a platform to survivors about sexual assault.
“They [UGA] can’t just be talking about sexual assault when sexual assault happens, they need to be continuously talking about it,” Erin said.
Jacqueline GaNun contributed to fact-checking this series.